tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post5764704616842322296..comments2023-08-10T06:57:45.911-04:00Comments on Questioning my Intelligence: Lost in TransitionSusan Raihalahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03018860599601419989noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-77763854069745099922012-01-26T10:47:44.327-05:002012-01-26T10:47:44.327-05:00Susan,
As a mid- westerner, I too, love the sight...Susan,<br /><br />As a mid- westerner, I too, love the sight of cardinals - it makes these dreary long months of winter so much brighter to spot a flash of red against the snow.<br /><br />Air mattresses - can you switch the air mattresses for the proper mattresses in your former home? A good stager would not expect a home owner to sleep on an air mattress. That is a sacrifice that is not necessary!Helennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-40558805877954673822012-01-25T17:36:08.619-05:002012-01-25T17:36:08.619-05:00We lived in Belgium for three years. The transitio...We lived in Belgium for three years. The transition there was actually easier than the transition home. We had two months without a car, living out of suitcases with borrowed furniture, using cardboard boxes as desks. When we finally arrived in America and moved into the house we'd bought the summer before, we were happy but felt culture shock. We had not finished unpacking when the finished basement in the house flooded and we discovered the house had major structural problems hidden behind those finished basement walls. We had to move everything back upstairs and tear up the basement and the professionally landscaped yard in order to get down to the foundation. My two kids (a boy and girl) were sharing a tiny bedroom upstairs because their bedrooms downstairs were uninhabitable. We were jammed into half the intended living space. Couldn't unpack much of our stuff because there was no where to put it. Still had clothes in suitcases. Boxes stacked everywhere. To add to the difficulties, the cost to repair the house cost many tens of thousands of dollars, about 20 percent of the original purchase price so we were absolutely strapped financially and struggling. The house wasn't finished and mostly together until nine months after our stuff had been packed up in Belgium. I felt like I lost a year of my life and was in transition for another year after that. It is hard and stressful and uncomfortable to feel STUCK, unable to go forward or backward. I tried to focus on the positive but mostly I just was depressed.V-Grrrl @ Compost Studioshttp://www.v-grrrl.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-66025806559846085382012-01-25T16:46:02.767-05:002012-01-25T16:46:02.767-05:00That new breakfast room sounds wonderful! As do th...That new breakfast room sounds wonderful! As do the cardinals. :-)<br /><br />In our first house, we lived without curtains or floor coverings (using sheets and with concrete floors) for about a year. It was our first house, and we built it, and squeezed it all out of our budget over time, LOL! We brought our babies home to that house. I loved it. After 12 years, we moved. My new house feels much more like home. :-)<br /><br />As for transitions... although I like to get comfortable where I am, I have many times over the years shaken everything up so that I need to work towards a new normal. I always believe that when you open up some space in your life, leaving the old behind, that some new wonderful something will come into your life. It always does. It always takes time. :-)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10593478482380900371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-3140337651282577352012-01-25T15:23:10.719-05:002012-01-25T15:23:10.719-05:00You really captured how I feel about my current ho...You really captured how I feel about my current house, it doesn't fit me! I always have warm feelings because I brought my babies home to this house and we've made a lot of improvements, but it's like a shoe that doesn't quite fit. <br /><br />I loved the part about looking house-poor. I picture your family eating Top Ramen on lawn chairs. :)<br /><br />Enjoy all the fun of a new home and try not to let the stress get to you! :)Krystie Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17236062482632018408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-6782387058947915342012-01-25T11:31:51.804-05:002012-01-25T11:31:51.804-05:00I love what you wrote about transition. There is a...I love what you wrote about transition. There is a lot of stress involved in all that. I feel in reading your post there is hope or you know with out question things will get better and be the way you want it to be.<br />My transition from a long term marriage to being single and broke is to wake up each day with hope that things can only get better because I have no idea if things will be the way I would like them to be in the future. <br />Thankful for your blog.Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-65561534239350613432012-01-25T10:53:31.794-05:002012-01-25T10:53:31.794-05:00Cyber (((hug))) for you! As hubby says, change is...Cyber (((hug))) for you! As hubby says, change is a four letter word for me, though since kids I have gotten MUCH better as you have to learn to go with the flow a lot more. I have actually surprised myself at times LOL!<br /><br />I can relate to the house issue. We didn't have curtains for two years (just blinds) and no living room furniture for ten! Turned out to be a huge blessing as that is where the kids would play and later all the daycare kids. Have had to be patient as we get things for the house: slowly building our Christmas light supply as they go on sale on Boxing Day, pooling money from parents' gifts to buy new furniture, being abundantly blessed by getting "good deals" (which I know were orchestrated in heaven!), painting the inside of the house from builder white to wonderful colours that make me not want to leave the house etc. <br /><br />Think what has helped me navigate the changes in the life include: working out (great stress reducer for me) remembering that family is what is most important, enjoying each day for what it has to offer and the rest can be done in due course. Mind you no OC behavior here (though I'm sure hubby wish I had a bit more of it LOL). Also doing something that brings you joy :)Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00084480597063268569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4432615092204334311.post-80394827379215428692012-01-25T09:54:52.917-05:002012-01-25T09:54:52.917-05:00Susan,
We did 17 moves in 22 years, so I feel your...Susan,<br />We did 17 moves in 22 years, so I feel your anxiety in the transition. Seems we have always been in transition. In addition, this has meant going from academe to the oil business to academe... a very awkward transition. My peace has always become getting into the daily routine, and settling the kitchen. As long as I can fin the teapot and the tea, I can deal with it.<br />I wish you joy in your new home-it sounds lovely. (Air mattresses? Do you have a good massage therapist?)Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10621256290452796775noreply@blogger.com